“Forgiving is not forgetting. It’s letting go of the hurt.” - Unknown It was instantaneous and vitriol and in my head before I even had a moment to register. “Ughh…I hate her!” “Her” was a girl I went to high school with over 20 years ago. I have not seen nor spoken with this girl since then…yet seeing her profile picture flash across a friends Facebook page brought it all back. Even though I know I shouldn’t hate her – I really don’t even KNOW her – it was the first thing that popped into my head. The funny thing is – we were on again/off again best friends through much of junior high and high school. However, it was a friendship based on mutual disrespect. She had a “reputation” that made her quite popular with the boys. I had a self esteem problem that I fed relentlessly. We were a perfect storm of self loathing. Sometimes, the stars would align and we’d be brief but glorious allies. Most of the time, however, we were using the oth...
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